The Nature of Pain

I think one of the hardest things is to climb inside of your own pain and be okay. To accept it finally so that it no longer has so much power over you. It almost feels like climbing into bed with the enemy. You want to remain mad at society, at your culture, at your parents, your pastor, at God. We’d rather lash out and seek vengeance on what hurt us. But the only way to be free is to climb inside your own pain and forgive them all.


Author: ebonyandcrows

Hello and welcome to my page~ My name is Larisa--a very common Slavic name that was either derived from the Latin word hilaris, meaning "cheerful," or from the Greek city of Larissa, meaning "strong fortress." Born in Ukraine, I emigrated with my family to America when I was still a small child and now make my home in the beautiful Pacific Northwest. Growing up immersed in two vastly differing cultures led me to have a burning curiosity about people all over the world. Stemming from said curiosity, I have fallen in love with traveling to other countries, meeting new people and delving into their culture, exploring new cities, and of course, dining on the local cuisine! If I cannot escape into a different country, then my next favorite method of adventure is to lose myself in a spectacular book. I enjoy books of all genres--from fiction and novels, to biographies and ethnographies. As long as it captures my fancy and holds me spellbound the entire time, I will burn through the book like a forest fire! Because of this penchant for reading and travel, coupled with my love of deep and mysterious things, I have been often called a dreamer and I find the title suits me. With that being said, I invite you to stay a while, perhaps make yourself a cup of tea and linger through my posts and feel free to comment or share a thought :-)

67 thoughts on “The Nature of Pain”

    1. Awwww 🥰 thank you Kevin! It is really odd that our mind can actually hinder our own healing when it goes into protection mode. It’s like you have to train yourself to let go of certain memories and experiences that it refuses to unlock because it’s a form of self defense. Sometimes our own minds can be our own worst opponent.

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    1. You’ve been deeply hurt, and I am so sorry for that. It was only after a long time of carrying around scars and pain that I was finally able to come to a place that I just didn’t want to suffer anymore, and so for my own sake, I keep forgiving everyone one by one.

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  1. “I think one of the hardest things is to climb inside of your own pain and be okay.”

    I agree with you so much…. I think it’s not just about owning it and forgiving others and ourselves, it’s about accepting it, and not feeling like pain will crumble us. Pain does not define who we are and when we
    try and reduce the struggle against it, accept it, and make room within ourselves for it, that paradoxical and magical thing often happens that lessens the pain. I don’t know, that’s how I see it anyway.

    This is a great post Larisa.

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    1. Perfect. You captured exactly what I was going for. Kindred spirit 100%. I was not even going to post this but it was something I was working through yesterday evening—and that’s exactly how I perceived it as well. Anyone who’s been hurt deeply enough will understand that the pain morphs into its own entity and kind of becomes this intimate companion that you never asked for. And I finally decided that the pain itself will no longer be something I will be constantly so afraid of because it continues to have power over me. You shrink the monster when you look at it and say, “I am okay and I will be okay.” It’s like you first have to let it in completely before you can utterly dissolve it.

      A million hugs to you, Rachel.

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  2. So true and we’ll expressed. Biblical forgiveness accepts the consequences of the wrong suffered (even when they are terrible and lasting), lets go of all claims and desires for revenge, compensation, or even the acknowledgment of the offender of their wrong doing, and hands the matter completely over to God to deal with as He (the only one fit to judge) sees fit with no designs upon the outcome.

    It’s one of the hardest and most basic and essential things a Christian is called to do, in my opinion.

    God bless!

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    1. Yes, I completely agree, it is the most excruciating thing one has to overcome within themselves. I don’t know which is harder—having to overcome the pain inflicted, or having to overcome our own selfish natures and desire for revenge.

      God bless you too!

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  3. Brilliant read! Pain often shapes who we are, but that doesn’t mean we should let it control us. Rising above it is often the hardest, but the most satisfying part of recovery.
    Sending you warm hugs this weekend! 😀 ❤

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  4. Here is Pain….My Lady Love & Best Friend departed this Earth, 11/05/2019, When she took ill her children came and took her away from me, I literally starved myself for three weeks, no food, until my neighbors thought to come and save me from myself, bringing soup,bread, cake, and telling me that I still had a reason to live, and they were right, I can still write posts on providing a Livable Future for our Children, I can still fight against that Monster, Greed & the Lust for Power, I will fight them until my old Heart quits beating, I may not defeat them, but at least I will have tried!

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    1. Thank you so much EC. It means a lot coming from someone whose has stories of survival to tell herself. It is incredibly complex in practice, but we deserve better than to be locked in a cycle of bitterness 💕

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  5. Thank you, for the sympathy, My home is all of a sudden too Quiet, My lady and I did not own a T.V., so we would spend hours just talking with each other, mostly about our prior lives, only my good neighbors are giving me the will to continue living…..Earlier in our lives we raised a herd of Sheep & Goats, made Cheese, sold milk, and never had to own a lawn mower, now I have three lawn mowers! All of those wonderful animals had their own personality, and it was a joy to care for them, I just buried my last great dog Tao, last year and plan to be buried next to him when I depart this world, My lady was buried in Kansas, 7,000 miles away from me; We mourn, yet we go on…..

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    1. You are most welcome. Sympathy is the least I can give to someone who has known grief and trials. My heart goes out to everyone who mourns in some way because I know what it feels like to be devastated. It’s true, we must find the will to go on someway or another.


  6. I find pain is one of those masters, that teaches me to dissolve the painbody, fear, anger etc into this solution of acceptance & patience. It doesn’t mean that I’ll accept abuse & that sort of things.

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