A Woman of Valor, Who Shall Find?

I’ve been doing this kind of roundabout study on some things in the Bible that pertain to women, and what I’ve found has blown me away. I didn’t set out to study this, actually, I sort of stumbled upon it over the years through various other studies. What has really taken me by surprise is that God created the woman with incredible power. The reason this surprised me as much as it did when it was fully revealed to me was because religion and culture has claimed such a total hold on women that it has effectively stunted their full potential and growth.

Ever since my teen years, I was completely fascinated with the Proverbs 31 woman and fervently prayed to God that He would transform me into her. (Little did I know what, precisely, that transformation would entail.) But over the course of the years, as I was put to the test and subjected to battle upon battle, I was bewildered and confused and disheartened, and there was many a time I cried out to God, “God! What is the point of these exercises?! All I do is continue to fail harder every time I try harder!!” (Strangely enough, I was failing up towards success–but that is a different topic altogether.)

One day I was listening to a sermon on Hebrew roots in the Bible, and the preacher stated that a word in the Proverbs 31 chapter had been incorrectly translated–the passage that asks, “A woman of virtue who shall find?” The Hebrew in that passage is actually, “A woman of VALOR who shall find?” Okay, at face value, that seems kind of odd. Valor means to have great bravery in times of war or an intense battle or danger. A courageous warrior displays valor when he performs feats of great bravery in securing victory in a battle. So why would a woman have valor? Better yet, what would she need it for? So digging deeper into this question, I uncovered the roots of the formation of woman, and what, exactly, was in God’s mind when He was creating her. When God said, “Let Us create a suitable helper for Adam,” the Hebrew word for “helper” there is ‘ezer.’ Loosely translated, it vaguely means “helper.” But that is not the actual and correct translation for that word. The roots that are used in the Hebrew to make up the word ezer mean “strength” and “power.” In other instances of the Bible where ezer is used, it is describing an encompassing power that surrounds the godly person to protect and shield him from danger and harm. With that being said, I am pasting this passage from an article I read that summarizes everything up quite neatly:

“Therefore, could we conclude that Genesis 2:18 be translated as “I will make a power [or strength] corresponding to man.” Freedman even suggests on the basis of later Hebrew that the second word in the Hebrew expression found in this verse should be rendered equal to him. If so, then God makes for the man a woman fully his equal and fully his match. In this way, the man’s loneliness will be assuaged.

The woman was never meant to be an assistant or “helpmate” to the man. The word “mate” slipped into English since it was so close to the Old English word “meet,” which means “fit to” or “corresponding to” the man which comes from the phrase that likely means “equal to.”

What God had intended, then, was to make a “power” or “strength” for the man who would in every way “correspond to him” or even “be his equal.””

Okay, back to my own voice *wink* –After I realized the full spectrum of intent that was in God’s mind when He was creating the woman, I understood fully why the Proverbs 31 woman is a woman of valor. If she is to be a power and a strength unto her husband, (coupled with the godly mandate to be his protector) then she is supposed to come equipped with the courage it takes to head into battle and overcome it with victory. We are all in the war, and we each also fight our own personal battles. Our foes have many faces–fear being chief among them. The fear of social rejection, stigma, what other people will think, being branded as this or that, etc. etc. etc. I listed those fears specifically because our culture has made those fears into an Olympic sport.

“A woman of valor, who shall find? Her price is far above rubies.”
-Proverbs 31

*Note–I carried this over to my blog from my personal journal. I apologize for not citing my sources, I was pouring this down into my journal and simply copied and pasted there.


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Hello and welcome to my page~ My name is Larisa--a very common Slavic name that was either derived from the Latin word hilaris, meaning "cheerful," or from the Greek city of Larissa, meaning "strong fortress." Born in Ukraine, I emigrated with my family to America when I was still a small child and now make my home in the beautiful Pacific Northwest. Growing up immersed in two vastly differing cultures led me to have a burning curiosity about people all over the world. Stemming from said curiosity, I have fallen in love with traveling to other countries, meeting new people and delving into their culture, exploring new cities, and of course, dining on the local cuisine! If I cannot escape into a different country, then my next favorite method of adventure is to lose myself in a spectacular book. I enjoy books of all genres--from fiction and novels, to biographies and ethnographies. As long as it captures my fancy and holds me spellbound the entire time, I will burn through the book like a forest fire! Because of this penchant for reading and travel, coupled with my love of deep and mysterious things, I have been often called a dreamer and I find the title suits me. With that being said, I invite you to stay a while, perhaps make yourself a cup of tea and linger through my posts and feel free to comment or share a thought :-)

9 thoughts on “A Woman of Valor, Who Shall Find?”

  1. Hello πŸ™‚ First I was confused for I looked into Psalm #31 not Proverbs. Finally I located and re-read your post to set things right. This had value on it’s own for I saw more deeply into your thinking in light of having just read the scripture. I used a Jerusalem Bible. Quite different: ‘A perfect wife — who can find her? She is far beyond the price of pearls.’ But thinking perfection, in womanhood, one could possibly imagine that well-rounded virtue equates to the perfect wife. Reading the Proverb, I thought at once of virtues. For I’d written of virtues once, and did a fair amount of thinking and research on them. And their cultivation does require a kind of steadfast valor, because many traits and circumstances come to test them as they unfold. It certainly takes bravery to be a woman in this age, maybe moreso than to be a man. But there is valor in any case in following and commiting to the path of virtues.

    As to what this gives for the man,I have a few thoughts. The best women I knew enfolded me with a cloud of warm certainty, as though from the center of their hearts. A woman who sees deeply into a man’s idiosyncratic battles and trials (really seeing into his soul and character) without admonition but tactful and creative support where it is needed, gives something tremendous, that warms the man in his effrts all through life. The word I ‘d use maybe is support. (Helper/helpmeet/mate) A woman give a supoorting strength which most men cannot generate on their own, for the psychology of men and women are complimentary. and the one makes full the other.

    Interesting to have read and spent time with these ideas. πŸ™‚

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    1. Thank you for sharing your insights! That was very interesting and I can’t help but agree with you about each complementing the other. I am a believer in design (of course) and I find that once we align with the design that we were created for, there opens a new, delicate and deeply mysterious world before us that is an absolute delight to navigate. It’s like finding pieces of a gorgeous puzzle and fitting them together to create a fulfilling experience like nothing else can offer. I am referring to the woman being a helpmeet for the man. It’s not about “submission and oppression” but rather about coming together to create one whole.

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      1. yes, good thoughts. with greater and greater amounts of independence or freedom in recent century it is more and more elusive to find ‘roles’ for men and women vis-a-vis each other, it is evolving, but some things remain as anciently true. in general, it is a very healthy instinct to care about the other’s spiritual unfolding and creating a new whole. πŸ™‚

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          1. I do not know for sure how old mine is, πŸ™‚ But I have the sense that with writing from the heart, more and more, we are part of the evolving forces which push humanity and earth towards a renewal of spiritual and authentic community. So, glad we see similarly on this.

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